1. Do What You Used To Enjoy
When you married your spouse, you felt love. Or you at least felt an emotion that you thought was love. And you expressed that feeling by doing things together that you really enjoyed. It sounds simple, but the way to get that "feeling" back is to do what you used to enjoy.
Marriage can be tough at times. Marriage can be difficult. So set some time aside and enjoy each other. But here's a warning - don't do what you enjoy and bring your problems along. That will ruin everything. Do what you enjoy, and for those few hours, focus 100% on loving each other again.
2. Clean Out Your Closet
It is so easy in marriage relationship to keep things to yourself when you get angry. You don't want to cause a scene. You don't want to start a fight. You don't want to have an uncomfortable discussion. So you just keep it to yourself.
Now granted, when it comes to keeping it to yourself or lashing out in anger, it is best to keep it to yourself for a little while. But eventually, once you have calmed down and can have a reasonable discussion, you must let your spouse know what is bothering you. So many couples have so many unresolved problems that their relationship can't grow because they are anchored down by previous problems. You must deal with problems fairly quickly, or you will lose that feeling of love in your marriage.
3. Forget The Past
Once you have cleaned out your closet, let it go. Don't ever bring it back up again. There are only 2 reasons people bring up the past during an argument - 1) they have not truly gotten the past out of their closet, or 2) they intend to hurt their spouse with the past. Neither of these reasons are good. You must let bygones be bygones and focus on today instead.
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